So who’s walking you down the aisle?!

by | 22 March, 2019

When you think of being ‘given away’ on your wedding day, who do you imagine at your side? I’m betting the majority of you will see your father, suited and booted, his face a picture of fatherly pride.

But let’s think for a moment about the brides-to-be out there who won’t have their dad on their arm. And believe me, there are many.

I, for one, did not have my dad with me on my wedding day – he passed away just before I got married. Instead, both my lovely mum and faithful dog walked me down the aisle – yep, you heard right! Mum’s face brimmed with pride whilst my pampered pooch trotted loyally beside me. It was a beautiful moment and, with all the love in the room, it felt as though my dad was right there beside me.

I’ve met brides who have chosen not to have their father give them away – whether that’s because they’re estranged from their dad, or they feel someone else is more deserving of the privilege. I’ve also met brides who have had both parents walk them down the aisle, unable to choose between them and happy to be flanked by two people who brought them up equally.

Sometimes, fathers will refuse to do the deed, simply because they would rather take a backseat and watch from the sidelines. Maybe they’re too nervous, too shy, too undeserving, or simply too blinkin’ lazy!

And then there’s the bride who chooses, instead, to have her beautiful children accompany her to the altar – a heartbreakingly sweet image if ever I saw one!

And then there’s the bride who chooses, instead, to have her beautiful children accompany her to the altar – a heartbreakingly sweet image if ever I saw one!

The most important thing to remember is that whilst tradition focuses on the father giving the bride away, there’s always a myriad of reasons as to why a bride might do things differently. Whatever the situation, the most important thing is that the bride is happy and relaxed. If that means coaxing their two-year-old down the aisle, or clinging to their furry friend (treats at the ready!), then so be it.

If you’re getting married this year and, like me, won’t have your father by your side, my advice is this: choose someone deserving to take his place and carry his memory in your heart, so that he’s with you every step of the way.